Friday, July 25, 2014

Faith and Fellowship Blog Hop

Ever since getting back into having the Faith and Fellowship Blog Hop on a regular basis, Friday (and the rest of the weekend) is my favorite!  I love reading your posts and growing closer to you and to the Lord through them.  I hope each of you get a chance to read one another's posts and love on one another!  Link up any and all posts you've written in this past week (or dig into your archives!) that are an encouragement for the Christian community!  I can't wait to read your testimonies, find out what God's doing in your life, or discover what you're learning in your quiet time!

Faith and Fellowship Guidelines

1.  Link up a post (not just the link to your blog) from the week that shares what the Lord's been doing in your life or speaking to you.
2.  Put the button on your blog post or blog so that others can hear about this wonderful group of Godly women.
3.  Visit as many blogs as you're able and get to know your sisters in Christ!
4.  Share this blog hop on social media using #faithandfellowship or pin the button on pinterest.

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Your Host:

Susannah1

Susannah from Simple Moments Stick

Your Cohost:


Sarah from Joyfully Organized


If you'd like to cohost in the future, please email Susannah at susannah.kellogg (at) gmail.com


Thursday, July 24, 2014

Let's Start a Revolution

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Day after day as I go through life I hear people talking down about the significant others in their lives.  I hear it at work, at the grocery store, on TV, and, unfortunately, even at church.  Women joke about their husbands not being able to clean up after themselves, not wanting to cook, not stepping up and being the co-parent of their kids...  Men complain about their wives being too emotional, not intelligent, and not a good housekeeper...  The lists go on and on!

That needs to STOP!  Ladies, let's start a revolution!  Let's commit to loving the men in our lives and encouraging them, not tearing them down and berating them.  Let's choose TODAY to make this change in our lives!

Long ago Nate and I made a commitment to only speak positive words about each other to each and every person we come in contact with.  Yes, there are times we genuinely need to discuss a problem in order to get advice and that's completely different because it's not done in a joking or malicious way.  No, we're not perfect about this but we do our very best!

Here are a few reasons why we find it so vital to our marriage for us to keep our language about one another positive:

1.  It keeps those we're talking with from thinking poorly of the other person.  If I'm frustrated with Nate and complain about it to my coworkers, I'm more than likely to go further than the truth.  Nate may have forgotten to put his clothes in the hamper but I might stretch it and make it sound like he never helps out around the house.  That gives the women I work with a view of Nate that couldn't be further from the truth.  Honesty is key and I do not want my coworkers to be viewing Nate in a way that isn't true.  I want them to be able to have the same respect for him that I have whenever they hear about him or when he walks into the office.

2.  It keeps us from stewing on our problems.  When I gripe and complain about something, I'm spending too much time thinking about it.  Thinking and stewing on it does NOT solve anything.  If Nate's not around for me to share my frustration with, focusing on the problem isn't helpful.  Talking with him, not my friends, about what I'm frustrated about is the only way anything is going to change.  My friends can't fix our problems, only Nate and I (and maybe a mediator) can fix our problems.

3.  It shows others the Christ-like love we (try to) have for one another.  When someone I know jokes about fighting with her husband it's so easy to joke right along with her.  I mean, it's NORMAL to have big fights with your spouse.  The thing is, that's a lie for us.  Nate and I don't fight.  No, we do NOT always agree on things but we're just not fighters.  At the very beginning of our relationship we agreed we'd never raise our voices, slam doors, refuse to talk, etc when we're in a disagreement.  We work through our problems calmly and rationally.  It helps that we're both naturally more reserved people but it's also us doing our best to display Christ to each other.  By joking with my friend about fighting with Nate, I'm not displaying to her our desire to show each other Christ-like love.

4.  It encourages others to think about the way they talk about their significant others.  When I refuse to talk badly about Nate, I've found it rubs off on others.  Women are less likely to talk badly or joke negatively about the men in their lives when they're around me.  Instead of negatively talking, our conversations are much more healthy.  Sometimes women are truly having relationship problems and, instead of joking about them, they know I'm a safe, listening ear who will take what they say seriously.  Women tend to talk more about their husband's positive attributes and speak praises of their husbands around me since I don't join in on all the negativity.

I'd love to encourage each and every one of you to make the commitment Nate and I made.  We need to speak words of positivity and encouragement into our loved ones lives - whether they're present or not.  We need to go to our spouses when something is frustrating us instead of venting to our friends.  We need to show Christ-like love to our men.  I believe we can start a revolution and keep our marriages (and other relationships) strong!

Monday, July 21, 2014

The Problem with Blessings

BlessedWhat does it mean to be blessed?

I've been struggling with the term "blessed" a lot recently.  I think it all began years ago while I was attending Multnomah University (a Bible college here in Portland).  It was my Freshman year and we had a fun, competitive quiz in a class.  Unfortunately, my team was not the one that won (much to my competitive chagrin) and when the team that did win was congratulated, a girl on the team said "It's only because of God's blessing that we were able to remember these things."

Wait - What?

If God's blessings allowed her team to remember the facts and pull ahead of the curve doesn't that mean that He didn't bless the rest of us in that way?  He withheld blessings from everyone else in the room just so her team could win?  Is that the way God works?

I know that's a simple, silly circumstance that doesn't really mean much in the long run.  No, God probably had nothing to do with which team won our silly quiz but that mindset can be taken to very far extremes.

When I say I am blessed because I have an amazing, loving husband does that mean God is withholding blessings from a woman who is in an abusive marriage?  When I say I am blessed that my husband and I have good jobs that allow us to pay all our bills, go on vacation, and pay for seminary out of pocket does that mean that those who are laid off or who struggle to make ends meet are having blessings withheld from the Lord?  When I say I am blessed with an easy, healthy pregnancy does that mean God is withholding blessings from my friend who is further along than me and is still dealing with being sick or, even worse, that He is withholding blessings from another friend of mine who has been longing for a child for the past five years and hasn't been able to conceive?

To be honest, I don't know the answer to these questions.  I know that James 1:17 says that "Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change."  But does that mean that everything we view as blessings are a part of those "good and perfect gifts" that come from the Lord?  Maybe we're completely misinterpreting that passage!  Maybe the true "good and perfect gifts" are spiritual in nature - things like salvation, peace, faith...

All I know is that I no longer tell people that the good things in life are a blessing.  Maybe they're from the Lord but, if they're not, I do not want to be rubbing others' faces in the possibility that God is withholding blessing from them.

I'd love to hear your thoughts.  How do you feel about the term "blessed"?  What do you find in scripture that speaks to this subject?

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Friday, July 18, 2014

Faith and Fellowship Blog Hop

It's that time again - time for us to join together as a body of Christ and get to know and encourage our sisters in Christ!  Link up any and all posts you've written in this past week (or dig into your archives!) that are an encouragement for the Christian community!  I can't wait to read your testimonies, find out what God's doing in your life, or discover what you're learning in your quiet time!

Faith and Fellowship Guidelines

1.  Link up a post (not just the link to your blog) from the week that shares what the Lord's been doing in your life or speaking to you.
2.  Put the button on your blog post or blog so that others can hear about this wonderful group of Godly women.
3.  Visit as many blogs as you're able and get to know your sisters in Christ!
4.  Share this blog hop on social media using #faithandfellowship or pin the button on pinterest.

Simple Moments Stick

Your Host:

Susannah1

Susannah from Simple Moments Stick

If you'd like to cohost in the future, please email Susannah at susannah.kellogg (at) gmail.com


Thursday, July 17, 2014

Cheap Clothes? I'm in!

Maybe I'm late to the party but I just NEED to share with you the awesome clothes I got through the website thredUP.  For those of you who also don't know what thredUP  is, it's a website for great quality second hand clothes - Both maternity AND non-maternity pieces.  You NEED to check it out!  I got on the site to browse through the maternity clothes and immediately filled my cart up with things that would fit my growing belly!  Check out everything I got...

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Yes, you read that right!  I got all these clothes for $45!  That was AFTER shipping!  I have to say that I scored big.

On top of how awesome the prices are, they also buy clothes from you.  I sent in a bag of clothes that didn't fit right or I just didn't like anymore and they credited me with almost $20 either for my next order or to put in my paypal account.  Next time I have clothes to get rid of this is where they're going.  It's the best!

Not only does thredUP have women's clothes, the site also has kid clothes.  I'm excited to shop for Caleb through this site when he gets here...  and then to sell them back when he grows out of them.

If you want to place an order this site, I'd LOVE for you to click over through HERE.  Not only do you get $10 off of your order, I get $10 off my next order for referring you.  It's a win/win.  (Seriously, you guys, help a pregnant woman out.  Having to get a whole new wardrobe is expensive!)  ;-)  You'll be SO happy you ordered through Thread Up and I'll be happy getting credit to buy new clothes!!!

PS.  I'm not compensated by thredUP for this post.  These opinions are all my own.

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