Instead of making it known that I am angry, sometimes I will even shrug it off. I decide that it's not that big of a deal after all and never mention it again.....Until the next time it happens. Shrugging it off is never good. It may help avoid an awkward topic or argument for the meantime, but in the long term, chances are it will come out again. Once something has had time to build up and fester in your heart, the words that come out will be ugly and hurtful. It's much better to handle things head on in a calm manner rather than letting your irritation build and explode one day. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
Even though it seems that communication is most important in the midst of a conflict or disagreement, I would also say that daily conversations that have meaning are extremely important as well. I have noticed that the more my husband and I talk about our days, the closer we feel, and the happier we are. Sometimes, you may feel like you just don't have anything to say. You go to the same job each day or you deal with the same things that your kids do over and over. There's just not that many "happenings" on a day to day basis. I would urge you to be thankful for those days. Be thankful when the storms have calmed and you don't have some major issue to talk over. Take those opportunities to talk to your spouse about goals, ambitions, or frustrations! The nights that my husband and I spend talking without the interruption of any technology are nights that I treasure and hold close to my heart. Everyone loves to feel loved and like they are worth someone else's time, so use that to your advantage!
I know that this topic is really tough for a lot of people--myself included! It's so hard to communicate on the same level and frequency as your spouse, coworkers, and family; it can sometimes be really frustrating. My pastor has mentions frequently that you should pick 2 things to sincerely encourage your spouse for, then bring your own thoughts to the table. When this is implemented, each person can contribute their thoughts, needs, and wants and feel like they are being listened to!
Here are a few tips for maximizing communication in relationships (especially marriages):